Why being able to leave my marriage makes me happy to stay? I didn’t realise this until I had my first child. I found being on maternity leave a real struggle. Being reliant on my husband for so much really didn’t sit well with me. I know that we’re a team, and he never made me feel anything other than loved and appreciated, but I felt a loss.

FIRE stands for financial independence, retire early. It’s a way of making frugal living and sensible investing sound sexy, like a marketing exercise for personal restraint and minimalism.

Being told to follow your passion is not particularly helpful in my view, for so many reasons.