If I continue to keep tight control over every aspect of every project, then I need to accept my business will only be able to achieve a finite level of growth. There are only so many hours in my day, and I’ve made a commitment to spend a reasonable number of them with my family, friends and sleeping.

About four years ago, when I was 41 weeks pregnant with my second child, my phone rang. I sent it to voicemail because I didn’t recognise the number. A woman I'd worked with before, Fiona McBeath, had left me a message saying she'd changed jobs and was wondering if I was available to do some work for them.

As mothers and business women we put so much pressure on ourselves to get it right all the time, to be Little Miss Perfect. It feels like if we fail at anything, we are letting down all the other women who are trying to appear as if they have it all under control. When, in reality, we are all balancing everything in a fragile equilibrium.

I find it ridiculously hard to say no in work situations. I’m fine in the rest of my life which I find even stranger. The issue is clearly linked to work situations. So what’s going on?

Limits are not something I really subscribe to. This is not a good way to live. In the past, this approach has caused my life to become pretty messy.